Rape is mostly common among the female gender, at least that’s the one society hears all the time, so it’s well known. Fathers raping their child/children, relations doing same, neighbours also doing the same, I mean the list of these sex predators are inexhaustible.
Genevieve Nnaji made a statement in one of her social media handles that read, “we constantly live in fear of men.” Some people didn’t go well with it, especially men, stating that she referred to all men as a rapist, and it’s not true. But what Genevieve meant was, we live in fear of men because you can’t identity a rapist by mere looking at them, so ladies, for fear of being a victim, see all men as rapists, so it’s better always to be prepared when in the presence of any man. If the victims of rape know a person is capable of raping them, do you think she will ever fall victim? The answer is no because she will try to stay far away from the rapist, and if the case is that she can’t stay far, she will be cautious.
I think that was the point Genevieve was trying to portray when she made that statement; ladies live in fear because they don’t know who is who.
But even after knowing so much about rape and the impact it has on society, there are facts about rape that so many persons still don’t know. Let’s hear it from the article below as a shocking revelation about rape is made known. It will do you well to read till the end.
SHOCKING REVELATION ABOUT RAPE
On this particular day, we had our meetings but couldn’t go back to school because we closed late, so I decided to sleep in the church as I had nowhere else in mind, but there was these set of sisters (ladies) who told me I couldn’t sleep in the church because it’s not allowed.
I was contemplating on what to do since it’s too late to go back to school when they suggested I can sleep at their place since we were all brethren in God’s family. I followed them; they gave me this assurance of peace that I had nothing to bother about; we all believed in the same faith and thanked God for bringing me, not knowing there was more.
While one of them was cooking, the other two were chatting with me. After she had finished cooking the food, we ate and went inside their apartment; at this time, It was already 9 pm.
I sat down on a chair, just observing the room, waiting to doze off as I was already tired. Before I knew it, they closed the door, I thought they too were ready to go to bed, but I got the shock of my life. The three(3) started seducing me, using their hands to caress my whole body; I quickly understood what they wanted and tried to do. I told them I am not that type of person they thought I was; I begged them to stop whatever they were trying to do. Still, they refused, stating that whether I like it or not, they will have me, and if I dare shout or talk about it to anyone, they will tell people I want to rape the owners of the room. I pleaded with them that I had money to give to them so they would just leave me alone, but my plea fell on deaf ears.
They laughed, told me that they don’t need my money but need me; I begged and begged them crying like a baby; instead, one of them started calling the attention of people.
Oh, my God! What will I do? I was far from the people know, and I was at the point of death; what should I do? If these ladies shout, people will come in and pounce on me, if I call, the ladies will turn the issue around, and at the end, I will be the culprit while they the victims, and if these people pounce on me and I don’t survive, they will label me with a bad name while I’m gone, making it look like I was never a child of God but pretending instead, those were the thoughts running through my mind, and when I finally ran out of ideas, I had to give in and allowed them to have their way with me to save my name and God’s name.
After that nightmare, yes! I call it, I told my friends, both male, and female, but guess what, they all laughed at me, no one believed me till now. Because of the way my friends reacted, I didn’t bother telling others. I still live in fear and in that shock. I tell my dad I will not get married, but he doesn’t know the reason.
The pain inflicted on me through that act was so terrible that I started seeing my five(5) sisters and every lady as rapists. For long, I was angry and bitter towards them, but then, being bitter wasn’t going to help me or profer solution to my dilemma, but I know that someday I will heal completely.
HOW THE SITUATION WAS HANDLED
(Shocking Revelation About Rape)
From my story, you can tell I didn’t have any option left, or probably I ran out of ideas; I had to save my life and God’s name by succumbing to their illicit activities. I wished I had something I could have done that would have saved my head and the name of the God I serve. But one thing I know is, everything happens for a reason. I decided to share this because the world probably doesn’t know such things happens or they know but don’t give it attention.
ADVICE TO PEOPLE WHO HAS BEEN IN SUCH SITUATION AND THOSE WHO HAS NOT
ADVICE TO SOCIETY
Just as mothers try to protect their girl child from sex predators, they should also protect the boy child; you may think that only the female child is abused sexually, but if you look carefully and take statistics, you will find out that most boy children are also abused sexually. Look after the two genders; they are all victims of sexual assault. If a grown-up like me could be raped, tell me why you think that little boy child can’t be abused sexually.
Most men don’t have anybody to hear them out because they are men, and society believes men can’t be raped; this is sad. People concentrate on the girl child and put the boy child aside, but the truth is everyone needs help and what you probably don’t know is, both genders can be victims of rap; men are also raped.
Now, let’s talk
1) What do you have to say about the boy child sexual assault?